Ten years after the Hite Report exploded the myths surrounding women's physical sexuality, Women and Love offers a massive and moving documentation of women's profound questioning of their emotional relationships with men.
Author(s): Shere Hite
Edition: First Edition Edition
Publisher: Dell
Year: 1987
Language: English
Pages: 650
Contents......Page 9
Preface......Page 13
The Questions......Page 15
Questionnaire Distribution......Page 25
Geographic Distribution of Replies......Page 26
Marital Status......Page 35
Age, Religion, Education and Occupation......Page 36
Ages of Respondents......Page 37
Education......Page 38
Occupation......Page 39
“Why did you answer this questionnaire?” “How did you like it?”......Page 42
Analysis of Replies......Page 50
Project Financing......Page 51
Women Who Contributed......Page 52
MASTURBATION......Page 55
Introduction......Page 56
Feelings About Masturbation......Page 58
Do you enjoy masturbating?......Page 59
What is the importance of masturbation?......Page 69
Types Of Masturbation......Page 76
Type IA (manual/clitoral)......Page 77
IA direct......Page 92
IA1......Page 94
IA2......Page 97
IA4......Page 99
IA5......Page 101
IA with anal penetration......Page 102
Type IB......Page 103
Type II......Page 104
IIA......Page 105
IIA2-Clitoral stimulation, always including vaginal entry.......Page 108
IIB-Clitoral/vulval stimulation.......Page 109
IIB1-Clitoral/vulval stimulation, sometimes with vaginal entry.......Page 110
Type III......Page 111
III–with vaginal entry......Page 113
Type IV......Page 114
Type V......Page 119
Type VI......Page 121
Leg position......Page 122
ORGASM......Page 126
Is Orgasm Important?......Page 127
What does arousal feel like?......Page 137
Do you enjoy extended periods of arousal? Arousal for its own sake?......Page 141
Orgasm......Page 148
What does your body look like during orgasm?......Page 151
Does your partner realize you are having an orgasm when you do?......Page 153
Are you shy about having orgasms’ with a partner? Only with new partners, or always?......Page 156
What do the contractions feel like?......Page 158
How did women describe the whole orgasm, from arousal to contractions?......Page 160
How did women feel after orgasm?......Page 164
How do you feel after orgasm?......Page 166
Why don’t women realize their capacity for orgasms?......Page 168
What is multiple orgasm? Sequential orgasm?......Page 171
Do subsequent orgasms feel different?......Page 176
Anatomy......Page 178
The clitoral-vaginal controversy......Page 183
Vaginal Ache......Page 194
Conclusion......Page 197
Emotional Orgasm......Page 199
Women who never orgasm......Page 204
The best way to learn to orgasm is to masturbate.......Page 209
Where should you stimulate yourself?......Page 214
INTERCOURSE......Page 223
Do most women orgasm from intercourse?......Page 224
Findings of this study......Page 228
A. Sexual pleasure and the reproductive model......Page 236
B. Patriarchy and monogamous intercourse......Page 239
C. The Freudian model of female sexuality......Page 244
If you don’t have orgasms during intercourse, you’re hung up......Page 247
Do you ever fake orgasms?......Page 256
Conclusion......Page 267
Masters and Johnson: A Rube Goldberg model?......Page 271
1. The position of woman on top.......Page 276
2. Grinding pubic/mons areas together.......Page 278
3. Touching of pubic bones together during intercourse.......Page 280
Preferred type of movement during “pubic bones together” stimulation, when the man is doing most of the moving.......Page 283
Preferred type of movement during “grinding” stimulation.......Page 284
4. Partial holding of the penis in the vagina, without moving in and out.......Page 285
5. Frequent re-entry of the penis into the vagina.......Page 286
Orgasm on entry of the penis.......Page 287
6. Extended “before play”: Clitoral stimulation or other stimulation to pre-orgasm, then followed by entry or joining.......Page 289
Clitoral stimulation by hand during intercourse......Page 291
Length of Intercourse.......Page 297
Variations in Anatomy.......Page 299
It is possible to learn to orgasm during intercourse.......Page 300
Do it yourself......Page 302
The Connection between orgasm during intercourse and masturbation......Page 303
Are your techniques in masturbation similar to your techniques for orgasming during intercourse?......Page 304
What is the difference between “to orgasm” and “to have an orgasm”......Page 307
Is having an orgasm a concentrated effort?......Page 308
Did most women have to learn to have orgasms during intercourse?......Page 312
CLITORAL STIMULATION......Page 314
How have most men had sex with you?......Page 315
Who decides when it’s over?......Page 326
Frequency of orgasm during clitoral stimulation by hand......Page 328
Do you feel guilty about taking time for yourself in sexual play which may not be specifically stimulating to your partner?......Page 333
Do you feel embarrassed asking for clitoral stimulation?......Page 338
“Are your partners well informed?......Page 340
What kind of clitoral stimulation do women like?......Page 348
Positions used during manual clitoral stimulation with a partner.......Page 352
Stimulation of the clitoral area with the man’s penis.......Page 355
Tribadism: stimulation by rubbing two clitoral areas together.......Page 356
Do it yourself.......Page 357
Frequency of Orgasm During Cunnilingus......Page 360
Breakdown of Frequency of Orgasm During Cunnilingus......Page 361
If women find cunnilingus so enjoyable, why doesn’t it lead to orgasm more frequently?......Page 363
Do you think your vagina and genital are, are ugly or beautiful? Do they smell good or bad?......Page 365
Do you enjoy fellatio? To orgasm?......Page 375
What kind of cunnilingus do women like?......Page 377
“Do you ever find it necessary to masturbate to achieve orgasm after making love’?”......Page 381
The reproductive model of sex exploits women.......Page 386
Do it yourself......Page 387
LESBIANISM......Page 389
Introduction......Page 390
Do you prefer sex with men, women, yourself, or not at all?......Page 396
How do women relate physically?......Page 402
What types of bisexual answers were received?......Page 414
Women explained some of the reasons why they preferred to relate sexually to women.......Page 407
Lesbianism can be political.......Page 415
SEXUAL SLAVERY......Page 419
What is sexual slavery?......Page 420
Is having sex important to you? Why? What part does if play in your life, and what does it mean to you......Page 422
Do you like vaginal penetration/intercourse? Physically? Psychologically? Why?......Page 423
Why don't women create their own orgasms?......Page 431
Habit......Page 432
Love......Page 434
Economics......Page 437
THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION......Page 444
Introduction......Page 445
Increased openness is good......Page 448
Many women felt there was no real revolution......Page 452
Women lost their right to say “no.”......Page 455
How strong is the male “sex drive”?......Page 462
The double standard......Page 466
Be a "Good Girl"......Page 470
Overwhelmingly, women wanted sex with feeling.......Page 477
Birth Control......Page 483
Is sex necessary for health?......Page 487
Conclusion......Page 498
OLDER WOMEN......Page 500
How does age affect female sexuality?......Page 501
TOWARD A NEW FEMALE SEXUALITY......Page 520
Redefining Sex......Page 521
What would you like to do more often? How would you like to see the usual ‘bedroom scene’ changed?......Page 523
Do you feel most men got more pleasure from inter-course than from sexual play!......Page 526
Do women always want intercourse?......Page 530
Toward a new kind of intercourse......Page 540
Intercourse can also become more androgynous.......Page 542
Do men need intercourse?......Page 544
Does having good sex have anything to do with having orgasms?......Page 547
Do You Enjoy Touching?......Page 550
In the best of all possible worlds, what would sexuality be like?......Page 561
Pressing together.......Page 562
Kissing.......Page 564
APPENDICES......Page 566
Questionnaire I......Page 567
Questionnaire II......Page 573
Questionnaire III......Page 578
How many women in the study masturbate......Page 585
Percentage who answered “yes,” “always,” or “usually” to the question, “How often do you orgasm during masturbation?”......Page 586
Breakdown of Types......Page 587
Combinations of masturbation types (women who masturbate in more than one way)......Page 589
Leg Position......Page 590
What kind of motion was involved in manual stimulation during masturbation?......Page 591
Arousal......Page 593
Is one orgasm sexually satisfying to you? If not, how many?......Page 596
How many women in the study orgasm......Page 597
Ages of women in Questionnaires II and III who never orgasm......Page 598
Arousal......Page 599
Contractions......Page 600
What is the difference in feeling between orgasm with penetration and without?......Page 601
Comparison of leg position and number of orgasms desired......Page 602
Comparison between preferred leg position for orgasm and whether orgasm is considered stronger with or without intercourse......Page 603
Questionable Orgasm Definition Group......Page 604
How was the 30% figure for orgasm from intercourse arrived at?......Page 606
Frequency of orgasm from intercourse......Page 607
Do you ever have any physical discomfort during intercourse?......Page 608
Of those who orgasmed regularly during intercourse, by what method did they do it?......Page 610
Do you enjoy rectal contact? What kind?......Page 612
Do they smell good or bad?......Page 613
Do you like vaginal penetration/intercourse?......Page 614
How often do you desire sex?......Page 620
Is the time of the month important? Do you notice an increase in sexual desire at certain times of the month?......Page 623
The greatest displeasure?......Page 624
Is having orgasms important to you?......Page 625
Would you enjoy sex just as much without ever having them? Does having good sex have anything to do with having orgasms?......Page 626
Questionnaire for women who read this book......Page 628
NOTES......Page 647