I read this book for a course on the treatment of sexual dysfunction. It is very sex positive and informational. Although one book won't likely undue all the negative stereotypes that men face, it's a must read for any man as well as for their partners, sexual health educators, and therapists.
Author(s): Barry W. McCarthy, Michael E. Metz
Edition: 1
Publisher: Routledge
Year: 2007
Language: English
Pages: 226
Front Cover......Page 1
ISBN......Page 5
Contents......Page 8
Request for Feedback and How to Reach Us......Page 10
Men Deserve to Feel Proud of Their Sexuality......Page 12
The Truth and Nothing but the Truth......Page 13
The Truth About Great Sex......Page 24
Who We Are and Why We Wrote This Book......Page 25
Overview of the Book......Page 26
2. Healthy Thinking About Male Sexuality......Page 28
Think Independently......Page 31
The CBE Model......Page 33
CBE Skills......Page 35
What Are Feelings?......Page 36
Different Ways of Expressing Feelings......Page 38
The 10 Things Men Need to Learn for Individual Sexual Health......Page 40
The Common Male Worry—Sexual Boredom......Page 45
Closing Thoughts......Page 46
Point of Reference #1: How We Learn About Sex......Page 48
Point of Reference #2: Scientific Learnings About Childhood Sex Behaviors......Page 56
Point of Reference #3: Sex Is a Learned Behavior......Page 60
Point of Reference #4: Common Male Worries About Sex at Different Ages......Page 67
4. Vive le Difference......Page 70
Point of Reference #1: Learnings From History......Page 71
Point of Reference #2: Men & Women’s Sexual Anatomy and Physiology......Page 74
Point of Reference #3: What Science Tells Us About Men and Women’s Sexual Behaviors......Page 84
Point of Reference #4: Sex and Love Are Developmental......Page 87
Point of Reference #5: The Importance and Value of Regulating “Lust”......Page 90
Point of Reference #6: The Use and Misuse of Erotic Materials and Pornography......Page 93
Point of Reference #7: The Ultimate Objective Is Emotional and Sexual Satisfaction......Page 95
Closing Thoughts......Page 96
Intimacy......Page 98
Integrated Eroticism......Page 99
Genuine Satisfaction......Page 100
Take the Best and Leave the Rest......Page 104
The Key to Lifelong Sexual Satisfaction......Page 105
Closing Thoughts......Page 107
6. Good-Enough Male and Couple Sexuality......Page 110
Understanding Core Dimensions of Your Relationship......Page 113
Generous Sexual Cooperation......Page 120
Developing Flexible Scenarios......Page 121
Adopting Good-Enough Sex Before a Crisis......Page 128
What If You Don’t Have an Intimate Partner Now?......Page 129
Closing Thoughts......Page 131
Prevention......Page 132
Physical Fitness, Sexual Function, and a Satisfying Sexual Relationship......Page 143
Closing Thoughts......Page 144
8. Lifelong Healthy Sexuality—You Are a Sexual Man Until You Die......Page 146
The 60s and Beyond......Page 147
Closing Thoughts......Page 156
Common Male Sexual Problems......Page 158
Sexual Dysfunction and Dissatisfaction......Page 159
Determining the Causes and Effects of SD......Page 160
Effective Treatments for Male SD......Page 166
Men’s Sexual Difficulties......Page 172
Other Concerns of Men......Page 182
Valuing Your Relationship and Partner Sex......Page 185
Future Relationship Vitality......Page 186
Closing Thoughts......Page 190
10. Valuing an Intimate, Erotic Sexual Life......Page 192
Resilience and Sexual Satisfaction......Page 193
Barriers to Being a Healthy Sexual Man......Page 196
Equitable Partners......Page 197
Closing Thoughts......Page 199
Epilogue: The Nuts and Bolts for Your Sexual Health......Page 200
Appendix A: Choosing an Individual, Couple, or Sex Therapist......Page 204
Suggested Reading on Couple Sexuality......Page 208
Internet Sites: Mental Health......Page 209
Sex “Toys,” Books, and Videos......Page 210
References......Page 212
A......Page 216
D......Page 217
F......Page 218
H......Page 219
M......Page 220
P......Page 221
S......Page 222
Y......Page 225
Back Cover......Page 226
