How to Be a People Magnet : Finding Friends--and Lovers--and Keeping Them for Life

Cover......Page 1
How to be a People Magnet: Finding Friends—and Lovers—and Keeping Them for Life......Page 4
Copyright......Page 5
Contents......Page 8
Part One - On the Road to Being a People Magnet......Page 18
1 - Friends, Lovers, and Knights......Page 20
And, of Course, Love......Page 21
Men’s Friendships......Page 22
Women’s Friendships......Page 23
Networking Friends......Page 24
How We’re Going to Find the Answer......Page 27
The Fatal FUD Factor (Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt)......Page 29
This Is Not a Book—It’s a Contract......Page 30
Sociological Studies Support the Contract......Page 31
Listen to the Testimonials......Page 32
Part Two - Making Strangers Like You, Instantly!......Page 34
4 - Hi! How Do You Like Me So Far?......Page 36
What’s Your Optimism Quotient (OQ)?......Page 37
5 - How to Spread Sunshine . . . Wherever You Go......Page 40
6 - Making Everyone Feel Special......Page 43
7 - Win Their Hearts, in Ten Words or Less......Page 46
8 - The Magic Wand, Your Body......Page 48
9 - Like Hallmark Cards, a Smile for Every Occasion......Page 51
10 - Why Do We Prefer One Person Over Another?......Page 53
Deborah Gets the Last Laugh (and Leil Eats Her Hat)......Page 55
11 - Fine Tuning Your Tongue......Page 58
12 - Never Hear “You’re Not Listening!” Again......Page 62
13 - Fragging the Fatal FUD Factor......Page 66
But What About Me? I’m No Olympic Athlete......Page 67
How You Can Go for the Gold......Page 69
14 - Beauty Is as Beauty Feels......Page 72
Thunder Thighs Wins Olympic Gold Medal for Love......Page 76
15 - How to Work a Room Like Royalty......Page 79
16 - Nice Shake!......Page 83
17- The Hugganary......Page 89
What Separates Social Winners from Social Losers?......Page 93
19 - Shyness Stinks!: Not Only That, It Can Trash Your Life......Page 97
Wait, There Are More Bummers......Page 98
So, If Schmooze-Aphobia Is a Disease, What’s the Cure?......Page 99
20 - Does This Confidence Make Cents?......Page 102
21 - Ah, Mystery of Life: And How Optimism Saved One!......Page 105
22 - Pass the Pollyanna Please......Page 107
Part Three - Friends and Lovers: How to find them, How to keep them......Page 110
23 - Why Have Friends? Or Pollyanna Plummets into Pandora's Box......Page 112
Suddenly Last Summer......Page 113
Pollyanna Plummets into Pandora’s Box......Page 114
The Bottom of the Pit......Page 115
Pandora’s Box Suddenly Snaps Shut......Page 117
24 - Friendship’s First Commandment: Thou Must Have Something to Give in Order to Receive......Page 120
You Don’t Make Friends, You Earn Them......Page 122
And Yes, You Earn Lovers Too......Page 123
25 - Ways to Say “I Love You” to a Friend......Page 125
26 - Plan Private Pleasures for Precious People......Page 126
27 - I Love Ya Man, and All That Jazz......Page 129
28 - Actions Speak Louder than Words: Just Ask Any Guy......Page 132
29 - The Power of Gifts: Or a Great Way to Get Rid of Junk You Don’t Want!......Page 136
The Green-Eyed Monster in My Closet......Page 139
31 - Planting Seeds for New Friendships......Page 143
Prissy’s Present......Page 144
You Made My Day!......Page 145
Now, About Your Promotion......Page 146
32 - Do You Want to Be Popular, or Do You Want to Be Liked?......Page 148
33 - What If I Only Feel Those Butterflies When I’m Talking to Him or Her?......Page 151
Great, So I Know Why. Now How Can I Get Rid of Those Butterflies?......Page 153
34 - Have You Ever Had a Friend . . . Who Changed Your Way of Lookingat Life Forever?......Page 155
35 - If You’ve Got It, Flaunt It!......Page 161
36 - Diversity, It’s Not Just for the Workplace......Page 165
Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?......Page 166
Part Four - Cupid’s Secrets Sexy Schemes for Luring Lovers and Keeping Them......Page 170
37 - Cupid’s Got Lots of Secrets!......Page 172
When Two of Cupid’s Arrows Cross......Page 173
Some Cupids Who Crashed and Burned......Page 174
Cupid Does Drugs......Page 176
Why Do So Many Women Go for the Bad Boys?......Page 177
Cupid Grows Up......Page 178
So How Long Can I Enjoy this Legal High Before I Come Down?......Page 179
What if You Still Want the “Can’t Wait to Jump Your Bones” Kinda Love?......Page 180
How Cindy Keeps the Sex Cinders Hot......Page 181
40 - What About Turning a Friend into a Lover?......Page 184
41 - Cupid’s Last Words......Page 186
Can You Have the Peaceful Forever Kind of Love Right off the Bat?......Page 187
What’s Cupid’s Secret? What Really Keeps Couples Together?......Page 189
42 - Mirror, Mirror, Find Me a Mate......Page 190
43 - Get Off My Duff......Page 193
44 - If You Want to Date, You Must Initiate......Page 197
The Dance of Love......Page 198
Inviting Someone to the Dance of Intimacy......Page 199
45 - Don’t Think Lines, Think Lyrics......Page 202
46 - Men “Pick Her Up,” Gentlemen “Make Her Acquaintance”......Page 205
47 - The Failure Fallback Plan......Page 209
48 - Creative Courting......Page 211
49 - Shhh, He’s Ticked Off!......Page 215
50 - Give Me a Strong Shoulder and a Big Ear......Page 219
51 - Go Figure!......Page 220
You Be the Judge......Page 222
52 - How Would You Handle This, Dear?......Page 226
It’s Not Just for Schmoozing Her......Page 227
53 - I Just Want You to Be Happy!......Page 229
54 - Hyperbole as Aphrodisiac......Page 233
55 - Understanding My Clam......Page 236
Clams à la Greque......Page 239
Part Five - Networking: Recruiting Knights for My Personal Round Table......Page 244
56 - The World’s Best Contact Sport: Once You Learn How to Play It......Page 246
57 - “Networking?” Did I Hear You Say “Networking”?......Page 248
58 - Plan Ahead!......Page 251
59 - The Guide to Sharing Your Gifts......Page 253
Networking, It’s Kid’s Stuff, Too......Page 254
60 - Do You Carry Enough Friend Insurance?......Page 257
61 - One Man’s Knight Is Another Man’s Nobody......Page 260
62 - My Friend Insurance Policy: Or the Knights at My Round Table......Page 262
63 - “Who Ya Gonna Call?”......Page 266
64 - Making Deposits in the Good Neighbor Account......Page 268
65 - Give Yourself a Priceless Gift......Page 270
Endnotes......Page 274
About the Author......Page 284