Bullying is a serious and pervasive issue for people with autism and Asperger Syndrome. This photocopiable workbook encourages adults who have been involved with bullying - as either victims or perpetrators - to explore what bullying is, the effects it can have and how it can be tackled successfully.
In this accessible and jargon-free book, with a wealth of case studies and summaries, readers are invited to consider the thoughts, feelings and actions associated with bullying and offered helpful strategies for dealing with it. The book comprises a general introduction to bullying, followed by sections that examine the issue from the perspectives of victim and perpetrator. This dual approach is designed to stamp out the problem at its source - the bully - rather than simply supporting the victim. It also recognises that while people on the spectrum are all too often bullied for being 'different', character traits such as difficulty with empathy mean they may unintentionally bully others.
This practical book can be worked through independently or with any of the wide range of professionals involved in supporting an adult with autism or Asperger Syndrome and other learning disabilities, to reach a new level of understanding about bullying.
Author(s): Bettina Stott, Anna Tickle
Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Year: 2010
Language: English
Pages: 312
Title
......Page 4
Contents......Page 8
A NOTE ABOUT LANGUAGE AND CONTENT
......Page 12
WHY THIS BOOK WAS WRITTEN
......Page 13
HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
......Page 14
PART ONE: An Introduction to Bullying......Page 16
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Your Experience of Bullying......Page 17
Different types of bullying......Page 20
Case Example: Mark......Page 26
Which places can bullying happen in?......Page 29
Which situations can bullying happen in?......Page 30
Case Example: Mark (continued)
......Page 32
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Who can be a Bully?......Page 34
Case Example: Mark (continued)
......Page 36
Things that may make you more vulnerable to bullying......Page 39
Things that can help to protect you from bullying......Page 40
Case Example: Ruth......Page 41
A note on being different......Page 43
Characteristics of ASD that bullies might pick on......Page 45
Characteristics of ASD that you can be proud of......Page 47
PART TWO: An Introduction to Feelings, Thoughts and Behaviours......Page 60
What are feelings?......Page 61
Emotional feelings......Page 62
Are thoughts facts?......Page 70
Unhelpful thoughts and thinking patterns......Page 71
Responsibility......Page 77
Thinking about different types of behaviour......Page 79
Finding new and helpful behaviours to replace unhelpful behaviours......Page 82
Passive, assertive and aggressive behaviour......Page 87
Case Example: Janine......Page 89
What has assertiveness got to do with bullying?......Page 92
Why might passive people be more vulnerable to bullying?......Page 93
How to be more assertive......Page 94
Tracing a thought in pictures: ‘I can’t cope’......Page 98
Changing feelings, thoughts and behaviour......Page 102
PART THREE: For Those who
are Being Bullied......Page 104
What physical feelings might I have if I am being bullied?......Page 105
What emotional feelings might I have if I am being bullied?......Page 109
Worksheet: What can I do if I have difficult feelings?......Page 112
What thoughts might I have if I am being bullied?......Page 117
Worksheet: What can I do if I have difficult or upsetting thoughts?......Page 118
Thoughts about hurting yourself or committing suicide......Page 120
Unhelpful behaviours......Page 122
Case Example: Sarah......Page 123
Case Example: Howard......Page 125
Case Example: Terri......Page 127
Helpful behaviours to cope with bullying......Page 129
How can you tell when you are not being bullied but feel like you are?......Page 132
An exercise to help tell the difference......Page 136
The effects of being bullied......Page 142
Why it is important to tell others about bullying......Page 143
Legal protection......Page 144
Dealing with all types of bullying......Page 147
Practical ways to deal with bullying......Page 148
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My Plan to Stay Positive......Page 164
19
When Things Go Well......Page 167
The last resort......Page 169
PART FOUR: For Those who are Bullying Others
......Page 174
Characteristics of ASD that might make you more vulnerable to becoming a bully......Page 175
What feelings might I have before I bully others?......Page 197
What feelings might I have when I am bullying others?......Page 207
What feelings might I have after bullying others?......Page 214
Worksheet: What can I do with feelings that are upsetting or make me more likely to bully?......Page 222
Using alcohol, drugs or medication to cope with difficult feelings......Page 225
Feeling suicidal......Page 226
What thoughts might I have when bullying somebody else?......Page 227
Worksheet: What can I do if I have difficult or upsetting thoughts?......Page 229
Physical bullying......Page 234
Emotional bullying......Page 235
Financial bullying......Page 236
Sexual bullying......Page 237
Cyberbullying......Page 238
Why some people with ASD might be vulnerable to bullying others......Page 239
The effects of bullying others......Page 241
Your rights and the rights of other people......Page 242
A note for those who have been chosen by a person with ASD as someone they trust to disclose about being a bully or bullying others......Page 243
Why might it be difficult to stop bullying others?......Page 247
Being able to admit that what you are doing is bullying......Page 248
Understanding your bullying behaviour in more detail......Page 249
How to tell somebody you are bullying others......Page 251
Apologising to people you have bullied......Page 254
Practical ways to help you stop bullying others......Page 255
Helpful behaviours to stop bullying others......Page 256
27
My Plan to Stay Positive......Page 269
28
When Things Go Well......Page 272
The last resort......Page 274
Asking for professional help......Page 278
PART FIVE:
Additional Information......Page 280
Dan’s story......Page 281
Recording other people’s stories......Page 282
31 Information for Family Members, Carers, Employers, Tutors or Others who Work with Individuals with ASD......Page 284
Information about ASD......Page 285
How to recognise bullying......Page 288
Managing disclosures of bullying......Page 301
Visual approaches......Page 305
How to best support those who are experiencing bullying......Page 306
Bullying contacts and resources......Page 307
Contacts and resources related to Autism or Asperger Syndrome......Page 308
Contacts and resources offering confidential emotional support on all issues......Page 309
Other useful contacts and resources......Page 310
REFERENCES
......Page 311
INDEX
......Page 312
