Are you sabotaging the love that is possible in your relationships? Have you ever wished you could unlock the love that is your true nature and express it fully? Choosing Love offers a spiritual approach to transforming relationships by showing you how to let go of your preconceived ideas and judgments. By moving beyond your ego and conditioning, you can create a richer, more loving life for yourself and those you care about. You have the power to determine how much love you experience in any given moment.
Choosing Love provides profound insights and practical advice about how the ego interferes with love and happiness; moving beyond romantic illusions; recognizing, finding, and sustaining a meaningful relationship; overcoming anger, judgments, criticism, and resentment; resolving issues like infidelity, money, commitment, sexual differences; and seeing the Divine in another.
This book was formerly titled Loving in the Moment.
Author(s): Gina Lake
Publisher: Endless Satsang Foundation
Year: 2014
Language: English
Pages: 183
Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Letting There Be Two
Ego and Essence—Love Is Recognizing the Divine Self—From One to Two—
The Role of Relationships in Spiritual Evolution—The Personality Is a Costume
—The Ego Rejects Differences—Essence Loves Differences—Letting Life Have
Its Way—How Ideas and Images Interfere with Relationships—The Self-Image
Is Manufactured—Programming and Relationships—Essence in Relationships
Chapter 2: Moving Beyond Judgments
Projection—Compatibility Between Personalities—Relationships That support
Essence’s Goals—How Judgments Interfere with Finding a Relationship—
Criteria for a Relationship: The Ego’s vs. Essence’s—How Judgments Interfere
with Sustaining Relationships—Judgments That Pretend to Be Helpful—Finding
a Meaningful Relationship—Your Judgments Are About You—Love Is More
Important Than Conditioning—Noticing Love—Taking Responsibility for Our
Judgments—What to Do About Judgments—Honesty Is Not the Best Policy—
The Gift of Acceptance
Chapter 3: Moving Beyond Anger
The Relationship Between Anger and Judgment—What Not to Do with Anger—
How Not to Feed Anger—How to Work with Anger—What Drives Anger—
Desires in the Context of a Relationship
Chapter 4; Moving Beyond Romantic Illusions
The Levels of a Relationship—The Role of the Personality in Relationships—
Factors in Compatibility—Friendship Within a Romantic Relationship—Love Is
a Choice—The Role of Conditioning in Relationships—The Ghosts That Shape
Relationships—Getting Our Needs Met in a Relationship—The Expectation of
Sexual Fulfillment—Fantasies and the Expectation of Beauty—The Expectation
of Being Cared For—The Biggest Illusion of All
Chapter 5: Moving Beyond Conditioning
What Drives Conditioning—Ignoring and Accommodating Our Partner’s
Conditioning—How to Avoid Being Triggered by Your Partner’s Conditioning
—The Power of “I’m Sorry”—The Importance of Forgiveness—And Forget It—
Using Humor to Break Ego Identification—Expressing Gratitude—“Always”
and “Never” Are Never True—Essence’s Touches—A Spiritual Practice to
Improve Relationships
Chapter 6: Moving Beyond Differences
Differences Don’t Have to Be a Problem—Essence’s Solution to Differences—
Meeting Differences from Essence—Working with Dysfunctional Conditioning
—Making Joint Decisions—Noticing Resentments—Negotiating
Chapter 7: A Spiritual Perspective on Common Problems
Infidelity—Inability to Commit—Saving Someone—Savers and Spenders—
Different Spiritual or Religious Views—Sexual Differences
Chapter 8: Experiencing Oneness Through Another
Seeing the Divine in Another—Experiencing Essence in Another—Staying in
Essence with Your Partner—Essence in Relationship
About the Author
